Well, you don't need wishbone for a better life, you need back bone!  Pack  your stuff up and leave, girl.  It gets creepy when a spouse starts suggesting spousal rape but then I guess men and women were still pretty much taught back then that the wife could not refuse her husband sex ever. Leave and let his house fall in disarray, let him fix and wash his own clothes and fix his own meals. If he comes after you, then you don't go back unless you want to go back. Yes, I has a soapbox!